5 Tips for Hotter 69ing

A lot of people love 69ing. According to our Great American Sex Survey, it’s one of the most popular sex positions year after year. And it’s no surprise why. Licking, blowing, and sucking on your lover while they do the same to you is incredibly stimulating. The shared sensations create a feedback loop for more intense pleasure. But nothing’s perfect, so here are a few easy ways to make this oral sex position even better!

Use Your Hands

Most people think 69ing is all about oral, so they focus on using their mouths and tongues. But you can dramatically enhance your experience by including your hands too! While your mouth and tongue are busy, use your hands to stimulate other erogenous zones such as her breasts or his balls. You might even use them for a little backdoor fun too! And if your jaw muscles need a break, your hands can take over to keep the action going.

Vary Your Technique

Doing the same thing over and over again during sex gets boring fast. And that applies to oral too. When you’re 69ing, it’s important to vary just how fast you’re licking (or sucking or blowing) and how much pressure you’re applying. Switch techniques to keep your lover guessing. And vary just where you’re licking, sucking and blowing. That could mean switching from her clit to her lips or from his tip to his frenulum (the spot where his tip and shaft meet).

Pull Out Your Toy Box

Sex toys can make everything better! When it comes to 69ing, try using a bullet vibrator. These small vibes deliver focused power with every touch. They fit easily in your hand, so you can position them to tease your lover’s most sensitive spots as your mouth keeps working its magic. Dildos are another great toy for 69ing. You can use them to work your lover’s inner sweet spots while your tongue focuses on their outer ones. And if you like getting naughty, you could throw some anal toys into the mix!

Switch Locations

Most couples 69 in bed, but there are plenty of other places you can do it! If it’s just the two of you, try breaking in the living room couch or recliner. You could 69 on top of a table or desk or on the floor too. And if you’re feeling adventurous, you could try it in the backseat of your car or in a sex swing. Just make sure the swing can support your combined weight before climbing in!

Lie On Your Side… Or Some Other Position

Many couples stick to a missionary-based 69, with one on top and the other on the bottom. But you can 69 in plenty of other positions. One of the most comfortable variations involves both of you lying on your sides, almost like you’re spooning. This version of 69 is easier on your back, leg and neck muscles – making it more comfortable and enjoyable.

How to Give the Ultimate Blowjob

Worshipping your man’s penis can be one of the most satisfying parts in your sexual routine. For some, kneeling at their partner’s feet and taking his most sensitive area into their mouth is more intimate than sex. It shows his trust in you, desire, plus it puts you in a position to drive him totally wild!

Giving the ultimate blowjob should be fun for both partners, not some chore on your to-do list. Enthusiasm and excitement often make all the difference between a so-so blowjob and an ultimate blowjob, and people who have mastered the art of oral sex understand what else drives a man wild. Follow these tips to treat him to the best blowjob of his life:

Tease Him Before the Blowjob

Dress to impress. Men are visual creatures, so make sure he’s got plenty to look at. Sexy lingerie like a cleavage-baring corset or a sensual striptease are a great prelude before giving him the ultimate blowjob.

Touch and tease. Run your fingertips up and down his body. Pump his shaft a few times while breathing on it. Kiss his belly and inner thighs, or start at his lips and work your way down. But don’t actually start blowing him yet. You want that anticipation to build.

Use your words. Stimulate his other senses with some dirty talk. Tell him how much you are going to enjoy this and what you are going to do to him. Hint: You may even want to start things off with a sexy text or phone call as a prelude, so he knows what’s in store for him later.

Open Wide & Start Blowing

When he can’t handle any more teasing, and is hard and ready, it’s time to dive on in.

Slide your tongue along his shaft. Slowly start licking his shaft up and down with your tongue. After a few good laps take him into your mouth. Take as much as you are comfortable with then start to suck.

Eye contact. There is nothing sexier than watching your lover’s reactions to every move you make. Look him straight in the eye with every suck and stroke.

Enthusiasm. Even if you’re not the most experienced fellatrix, enthusiasm goes a long way. If you are into what you are doing, he’ll be too.

Pay attention. All men are different, so when in doubt about what he likes or doesn’t like…ask. If you hit a certain spot that makes him gasp in delight – do it again.

Take control. If you’re going to go down, act like you mean it. You are the one with the power in this situation. Make him tell you what he wants.

Use your hands. Grasping the base of the shaft and pumping or twisting your wrist around it while orally working the head adds a variety of stimulation and can give your jaws a break - without breaking the mood.

Change your speed. Try a variety of speeds and degrees of suction until you find the one that puts him over the edge. Once you do find that magical pace stick with it and keep that rhythm going.

Humming. They don’t call it a “hummer” for nothing. Humming or moaning while giving your man a blowjob causes the throat to vibrate for added sensations.

Get it wet. Make sure you’ve got plenty of spit worked up; most guys like their blowjobs wet and sloppy. It also provides a good glide for your lips to work him over. Plus, pulling back and seeing sexy saliva dripping from your mouth and his shaft can be a total turn-on.

Add a Little Sizzle to Your Blowjob

Frenulum: A dude’s second favorite “F” word. The frenulum is the “V” shape on the underside of the penis where the shaft meets the head. It’s considered one of the top male erogenous zones, so make sure to give it some extra attention with light licks and twirls of your tongue.

Don’t forget about the twins. The underside of the scrotum is also super sensitive. If you’re licking the shaft, consider going all the way down and giving his balls a treat too. And if you’re REALLY feeling adventurous, travel a little further down into the region we call the “taint.” It’s the often forgotten no man’s land between the sack and the anus. A little lick there and he’s sure to be a happy camper.

Chill out. Put an ice cube in your mouth then slide your way down. The difference in temperature between the coldness of the ice and the hotness of your mouth will drive him wild.

Be spontaneous. Sometimes you might want your lover to know what’s on the sexual agenda, but nothing shows off your passion like surprise head – whether it’s a morning blowjob or a binge-watching something-on-Netflix blowjob.

Throw in some kink. If your guy’s adventurous enough, you could try fingering his backdoor for a little prostate stimulation. It’s an easy way to send him over the edge. Just be careful. Introducing a new element into your blowjob routine when he’s close to finishing might throw him off his game.

Flavored lubes. Turn his tool into a tasty treat with a flavored lubricant. They’re a great way to add some extra excitement and additional slickness. And for those who have a sensitive gag reflex, there are even gels and sprays that help relax the throat allowing you to take him deeper, more comfortably.

Spit or Swallow After the Blowjob?

Most guys would prefer you swallow, but it’s all up to you. If you’re not completely comfortable swallowing, and you can tell he’s about to blow, you can always point your guy in another direction such as your chest or even your feet if he’s so inclined. Your guy will be so happy after getting his ultimate blowjob, he probably won’t even notice where he finishes!

7 Toe-Curling Oral Sex Tips for the Real World

Simple enough that anyone can do them, these oral sex tips for men and women are a great way to spice up your love life!

Use All Your Assets

Good oral requires good stimulation – preferably from multiple sources at the same time. While your tongue focuses on your partner’s most sensitive bit (i.e. the tip of his penis or her clit), remember to use your hands too. If your partner’s female, you could finger her, play with her breasts or tease her backdoor… and that’s just for starters. If your partner’s male, then you could play with his balls, stroke his inner thigh, and pump his shaft, and much more!

Do Donuts With Your Tongue

Moving your tongue in a circular motion is a fundamental oral sex move whether you’re giving a blowjob or going down on a lucky lady. Tongue circles are just effective on the tip of his penis as they are on her clit. And they’re so easy to do, they’re almost instinctual!

Listen & Respond to Your Partner

Your partner knows what they like and what feels good, so it’s vital that you pay attention to them. If they like what you’re doing, then keep doing it. If they don’t like whatever you’re doing, then stop doing it. It might sound simple, but it’s advice all too many people ignore.

Vary Speed & Pressure

Variety is the spice of life, and the same applies to oral sex. Changing tempo keeps things new and exciting, especially after you’ve been together a while.

Add Enthusiasm & Energy

The Double Es are important whether you’re giving or receiving oral. No one wants to be with a partner who gets bored. That’s just a recipe for an unhappy relationship and unsatisfying sex. Adding excitement and passion to your oral experience when you’re on the receiving end will show how much you appreciate your partner’s hard work. It might even encourage them to work even harder. And a little enthusiasm and energy on the giving end just makes your partner enjoy it even more.

Factor in Some Butt Play

The taboo thrill of butt play can sometimes be all it takes to make your partner explode. Whether you use a finger or a tongue, a quick little trip down the backdoor is the sexual equivalent to “shock and awe.”

Keep Going After the Big O

Just because your partner climaxed, doesn’t mean you should stop licking. While some people get super-sensitive after hitting the Big O, others get more lazy and relaxed. If your lover’s in the later camp, there’s a good chance they can experience multiple Os if you keep going. And even if they can’t, it could still feel good!

4 Simple Tricks for a Better Blowjob

Most guys will be very quick to tell you that there’s no such thing as a bad blowjob. And they’re generally right – provided you don’t accidentally bite him or something. Those same guys, however, will tell you very quickly that there’s always room for improvement. Here’s four easy things you can do to give a better blowjob.

Quit Using Your Hands

People often combine a blowjob with either shaft-pumping or twisting – creating a Frankenstein-like blowjob and handjob combo. This is just wasted effort as nothing will ever feel as good as your mouth – no matter how sensitive his shaft might be. Take your hands off and see just how deep you can go. You don’t need to get to the point of gagging every 5 seconds, but take your time and see how well you do without those hands. He’ll appreciate it, and so will you. The more you practice, the better you’ll get at going deeper.

Change Your Tempo

A blowjob is a lot like sex. If you keep things at the same speed and even the same position, it’s going to get boring fast. Nothing says that you have to be on your knees for a blowjob. So try lying down with him standing over you or maybe while spooning on the bed in a 69. See? Blowjobs are exactly like sex, in that certain positions suck (in a bad way) while others feel absolutely amazing. Likewise, your guy will find changing speeds just as exhilarating. Start off super fast and then slow down to tease him before picking up the pace again and see how long he lasts. Mix it up a bit and you’ll keep him on edge for a long time to come.

Play With The Boys

You don’t need to go squeezing these things, but fondling that little sack below his penis is going to make him go wild. Just be careful how you treat them. If you’re too gentle, then it will feel like you’re trying to tickle them. But if you’re too hard, you might give them him a case of black and blue balls!

Swallow

Sure it can taste horrible, but swallowing is the perfect way to end a blowjob – especially if you don’t usually do it. It’s like finding the perfect purse with matching shoes and then discovering they’re all on sale for half off. The best way to swallow while minimizing the taste is to take him as deep as you can when he’s ready to blow. If you’re lucky, it will shoot right down the hatch and you won’t even taste it. But this is an all or nothing method. If you change your mind at the last minute, you’ll end up with an eyeful. And that’s much, much worse than a mouthful.

How to Go Down on a Woman

The act of cunnilingus, or going down on a woman, is extremely intimate. Some women say it’s even more intimate than actual lovemaking. After all, she’s giving you access to the most private parts of her body. And since some women can’t orgasm with penetrative sex alone, cunnilingus becomes even more important in terms of sexual satisfaction.

That’s because the vulva contains the epicenter of female pleasure, the clitoris. The clit has over 8,000 nerve endings that when properly stimulated can trigger incredible orgasms.

But since every woman responds differently oral isn’t a one-lick-fits-all situation. So how do you know if you’re going about it the right way?

11 Tips For Eating Her Out

Whether it’s during foreplay to get her wet and ready, or in place of intercourse, cunnilingus should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. She wants to feel pleasure, and you want to be the one to give it to her. That’s why we’ve put together these tips to treat her to incredible oral sex every time.

#1 Find Out What She Likes

She knows what drives her wild better than anyone, so communication is key. You don’t want to waste time fumbling around when you can just ask her what she wants instead. Plus, many women enjoy a little dirty talk beforehand – especially if you start off by telling her you want to go downtown!

#2 Set The Mood

Turn the lights down low and put her favorite music on. Make sure she’s relaxed and comfortable. Start off with a back massage or heavy petting to help get her aroused. Eating her out is much easier when she’s already in the mood.

#3 Tease Her

When you’re ready to start performing cunnilingus, don’t just dive in tongue first. It’s better to tease her and make her squirm in anticipation.

Dr. Jenni Skyler, PhD, LMFT, CST and resident Adam & Eve sexpert, advises to “slowly kiss the whole body, moving in towards the vulva. You can kiss and nibble the outer labia, the inner labia, and tease the clit. Pay close attention to her body language and other signals. You can gauge arousal based on moans and rotating hips. At this point, you can introduce your tongue and let the magic begin.”

You also may want to get as close as possible without actually touching her and blow directly on the clitoris. If you’ve been doing a good job teasing her, she’ll probably grab you by the hair and order you to start licking or else.

#4 Put Your Tongue to Work

When it comes to oral sex, the key is to experiment and look for her cues as to what is working and what isn’t. There are, however, proven techniques that can make her go wild and have her moaning with joy. Here are some of Dr. Jenni’s favorites:

Technique one is the alphabet method where your tongue traces out letters over the clit and the entrance to the vagina. (Don't forget that the introitus, or entrance to the vagina, can be very sensitive. So too is the labia. If the clit gets a little overwhelmed, you can take a break and come here).

Another technique is the “Snake Lick.” Imagine your tongue is like a little snake, licking gently but with enthusiasm and curiosity. As her arousal builds, so should the intensity. But make sure your lover is ready for that intensity.

A third technique involves sucking on the clit. Give your own lips a good lick to make sure they’re nice and wet. Then shape them into a small “O” just slightly larger than their clit. Press your lips around their clit and start gently sucking on it. You can suck on it steadily or create a gentle rhythm where you suck and release pressure. You could even alternate between sucking and blowing on their clit.

Also throw humming into the mix. Try humming your favorite song while your mouth is pressed against her clitoris. The vibrations in your mouth are sure to drive her wild.

#5 Add Some Variety

If licking is all you do, your tongue is going to wear out pretty fast so it’s important to alternate your technique.

Don’t forget your fingers either. Just because you’re going down on her doesn’t mean you can’t tease her nipples at the same time. You could give your tongue a break and finger her some as well. Most women love having someone suck on their clit while getting fingered at the same time.

#6 Respond to Her Reactions

The difference between good oral sex and great oral sex is how you respond to her body. Pay close attention to any feedback you might get. It might be something obvious like talking dirty, moaning, or thrashing around, or something difficult to notice like her toes curling. Once she starts reacting to something you’re doing, keep doing it! If it feels that good and is turning her on you are on your way to giving her that all important orgasm.

#7 Change Sexual Positions

Missionary is always a safe bet when performing cunnilingus. But there are some other positions you can try to spice oral up. She can get on all fours and you can lick her from behind. You can get on your knees and lick her from below. Lay on your back and she can climb on like she is going to ride you cowgirl, but she’ll ride your tongue instead. Or you can pin her shoulders to the floor and lap at her in the piledriver position.

And don’t just stop at different positions, try different places besides the bedroom as well. Kitchen or bathroom counters, the shower, laying her across the back of the couch, standing her against the wall, or even the staircase can add a fun new twist. Plus, spontaneity and a change of venue can be a real turn on in.

#8 Use a Vibrator or Dildo

Not only can vibes and dildos give your tongue a rest, but many women enjoy the added stimulation that sex toys provide. Clitoral vibrators for instance, stimulate her hot spot and some “suck” the clit to mimic the feeling of oral sex. There are even vibes shaped like tongues, and actual tongue vibrators which you place over your own tongue.

Try alternating between a toy and your tongue, or better yet use a smaller vibe or dildo along WITH your tongue. The added sensations are sure to send her over the edge.

#9 Try Flavored Lube

Sweeten oral pleasure and turn your lover into a tasty treat with a flavored lubricant. From strawberry to peach, and chocolate to caramel, these lubes make oral more enjoyable for both partners. They can also be used for penetration. Some even offer added benefits like warming or tingling features to provide added sensitivity and stimulation.

#10 Take Your Time

If you are focusing on the clitoris, Dr. Jenni suggests that “whatever technique you employ, the main thing is to never, ever forget the Three S’s: Slow, Subtle, Soft. The clit is sensitive. If you overwhelm it with speed or pressure, you will have to do a lot of backtracking. It's better to start off gently and build momentum.”

Plus, building momentum heightens her excitement. You may be in a rush to get to the main event, but she’ll appreciate the extra oral attention.

#11 Share Your Enthusiasm

If you are new to giving oral it may take some practice to become proficient. (And your partner should be happy to reap the benefits of that practice.) However, enthusiasm goes a long way as well. If you are into what you are doing, she will be to.

How to Give the Ultimate Blowjob

By: Eve on Jul 11, 2016

Worshipping your man’s penis can be one of the most satisfying parts in your sexual routine. For some, kneeling at their partner’s feet and taking his most sensitive area into their mouth is more intimate than sex. It shows his trust in you, desire, plus it puts you in a position to drive him totally wild!

Giving the ultimate blowjob should be fun for both partners, not some chore on your to-do list. Enthusiasm and excitement often make all the difference between a so-so blowjob and an ultimate blowjob, and people who have mastered the art of oral sex understand what else drives a man wild. Follow these tips to treat him to the best blowjob of his life:

Tease Him Before the Blowjob

Dress to impress. Men are visual creatures, so make sure he’s got plenty to look at. Sexy lingerie like a cleavage-baring corset or a sensual striptease are a great prelude before giving him the ultimate blowjob.

Touch and tease. Run your fingertips up and down his body. Pump his shaft a few times while breathing on it. Kiss his belly and inner thighs, or start at his lips and work your way down. But don’t actually start blowing him yet. You want that anticipation to build.

Use your words. Stimulate his other senses with some dirty talk. Tell him how much you are going to enjoy this and what you are going to do to him. Hint: You may even want to start things off with a sexy text or phone call as a prelude, so he knows what’s in store for him later.

Open Wide & Start Blowing

When he can’t handle any more teasing, and is hard and ready, it’s time to dive on in.

Slide your tongue along his shaft. Slowly start licking his shaft up and down with your tongue. After a few good laps take him into your mouth. Take as much as you are comfortable with then start to suck.

Eye contact. There is nothing sexier than watching your lover’s reactions to every move you make. Look him straight in the eye with every suck and stroke.

Enthusiasm. Even if you’re not the most experienced fellatrix, enthusiasm goes a long way. If you are into what you are doing, he’ll be too.

Pay attention. All men are different, so when in doubt about what he likes or doesn’t like…ask. If you hit a certain spot that makes him gasp in delight – do it again.

Take control. If you’re going to go down, act like you mean it. You are the one with the power in this situation. Make him tell you what he wants.

Use your hands. Grasping the base of the shaft and pumping or twisting your wrist around it while orally working the head adds a variety of stimulation and can give your jaws a break - without breaking the mood.

Change your speed. Try a variety of speeds and degrees of suction until you find the one that puts him over the edge. Once you do find that magical pace stick with it and keep that rhythm going.

Humming. They don’t call it a “hummer” for nothing. Humming or moaning while giving your man a blowjob causes the throat to vibrate for added sensations.

Get it wet. Make sure you’ve got plenty of spit worked up; most guys like their blowjobs wet and sloppy. It also provides a good glide for your lips to work him over. Plus, pulling back and seeing sexy saliva dripping from your mouth and his shaft can be a total turn-on.

Add a Little Sizzle to Your Blowjob

Frenulum: A dude’s second favorite “F” word. The frenulum is the “V” shape on the underside of the penis where the shaft meets the head. It’s considered one of the top male erogenous zones, so make sure to give it some extra attention with light licks and twirls of your tongue.

Don’t forget about the twins. The underside of the scrotum is also super sensitive. If you’re licking the shaft, consider going all the way down and giving his balls a treat too. And if you’re REALLY feeling adventurous, travel a little further down into the region we call the “taint.” It’s the often forgotten no man’s land between the sack and the anus. A little lick there and he’s sure to be a happy camper.

Chill out. Put an ice cube in your mouth then slide your way down. The difference in temperature between the coldness of the ice and the hotness of your mouth will drive him wild.

Be spontaneous. Sometimes you might want your lover to know what’s on the sexual agenda, but nothing shows off your passion like surprise head – whether it’s a morning blowjob or a binge-watching something-on-Netflix blowjob.

Throw in some kink. If your guy’s adventurous enough, you could try fingering his backdoor for a little prostate stimulation. It’s an easy way to send him over the edge. Just be careful. Introducing a new element into your blowjob routine when he’s close to finishing might throw him off his game.

Flavored lubes. Turn his tool into a tasty treat with a flavored lubricant. They’re a great way to add some extra excitement and additional slickness. And for those who have a sensitive gag reflex, there are even gels and sprays that help relax the throat allowing you to take him deeper, more comfortably.

Spit or Swallow After the Blowjob?

Most guys would prefer you swallow, but it’s all up to you. If you’re not completely comfortable swallowing, and you can tell he’s about to blow, you can always point your guy in another direction such as your chest or even your feet if he’s so inclined. Your guy will be so happy after getting his ultimate blowjob, he probably won’t even notice where he finishes!

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55 Intense Blow Job Techniques To Make Him Scream With Pleasure!

Knowing the best blow job techniques to bring your man into a state of orgasmic bliss is vital if you want to make him utterly addicted to you…or any man for that matter.

That’s what this chapter of the Blow Job Guide is all about, teaching you 55 of my most powerful blow job techniques.

Side note: If you are currently struggling to orgasm during sex or masturbation, then you may want to learn about the Easy Orgasm Solution. It begins by teaching you the techniques to orgasm easily and consistently. Then you'll learn how to have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation. You can find out more here.

This page is Chapter 3 of the Blow Job Guide, and you can go back to Chapter 1 here and Chapter 2 here when you have finished reading this chapter. Now let’s learn some blow job techniques to make your man’s eyes roll into the back of his head, and his toes curl in pleasure…

Lick, Lick, Lick It

Licking his penis is a powerful blow job technique for beginning your blow job. It serves as a sort of oral sex foreplay that will build sexual tension and have him begging you to take him in your mouth…which is exactly what you want.

Licking his cock is super easy. At it’s simplest, you just need to hold his penis in your hands and use your tongue to lick it. You’ll find that licking him from the base to the tip works really well. But don’t stop here, there are a bunch of other licking techniques that you can use during your blow job:

Focus on the Tip – According to one study, the top part or glans of your man’s penis [1] is the most sensitive part, specifically the underside of his glans [2], but if your man is circumcised then it will be slightly less sensitive. The bottom side, where the head connects to his shaft, is known as the frenulum and is also incredibly sensitive. Although, some studies find that the whole glans is sensitive with no one part more sensitive than the other [3].

Try focusing on licking the tip of his penis (the glans) using the least amount of pressure possible. Many guys report this being their absolute favorite blow job technique. You can even try doing this for your entire blow job until he comes. More on oral pleasuring the tip of his penis.

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The Topside of your Tongue – The top side of your tongue provides slightly more stimulation than the underside thanks to the rough surface your taste buds create. So focus on using the top side of your tongue when licking him.

His Balls – Don’t forget about his balls. His balls are as sensitive as his penis, and for some guys, even more sensitive. You can simply lick them, but I describe many other ways to stimulate his balls for maximum pleasure here.

Anilingus – There are two other excellent locations besides his penis and balls that can massively add to his pleasure and make him see you as an oral sex goddess even if they are not strictly part of a regular BJ.

His perineum or perineal raphe aka his taint, the rough patch of skin located just behind his balls as well as his anus contain a lot of nerve endings. The root of his penis lies beneath this skin, behind the perineum [4, 5 p 24], so you can stimulate it through his perineum. Some guys adore having these two areas licked and stimulated while others don’t like it at all. It’s a personal preference, and it all depends on your man.

Tonguing these areas, up and down, or in a circular motion is an awesome way to stimulate them. You can even press your tongue inwards on his anus to provide a different, but still pleasurable sensation. This technique is called anilingus.

Taint-To-Tip – A technique that works great if your man has a sensitive perineum (taint) or balls is to slowly lick him from his perineum all the way to the tip of his penis. Doing this in one slow, continuous lick is best.

You’ll also find that it’s easiest to do when you use your hand or just a finger to press his penis against his belly.

One vital blow job technique to keep in mind when licking his dick during a blow job is that:

Wetter Is Better

Ask any guy, and they will tell you the same thing: Super wet blow jobs feel best. Ideally, you will easily be able to produce lots of saliva on command, but that’s not always easy.

Two tricks to producing more saliva are:

• Chewing gum right before going down on him.

• Eating a piece of juicy fruit before you start blowing him (like a strawberry or pineapple or peach).

Of course, these two tricks aren’t always practical.

A much easier and more reliable way to make your blow jobs super-wet is to use edible lube. Just keep some handy in a drawer beside your bed or in your purse.

This also means that you will have lube handy in case you need some for sex.

Discover everything you need to know about lube.

Deep Throating Solution – One quick way to produce lots of saliva is to deep throat your man. Here’s why it works:

When his penis touches the back of your throat, it will stimulate your gag reflex. This triggers your body to quickly produce lots of saliva. So, if you both enjoy deep throat, this is the perfect technique to give your man a wet, sloppy blow job. More on deep throating in Chapter 7.

Just The Tip

As I mentioned earlier, the tip of your man’s penis (the glans) is by far the most sensitive spot on his penis, particularly the underside. The female equivalent of the penis is the clitoris [6, 7]. So focusing your attention on the tip of his penis is going to work well to push him over the edge in the most intense and pleasurable way possible.

There are a number of different techniques you can use to pleasure the tip of his penis.

Kissing – Kissing the tip of his penis is a fabulous technique to start off your blow job and draw out the length of it…perfect if you like seeing and hearing your man squirm in beautiful agony. Kissing his penis and balls is easy, just think back to how you kiss him normally (on the lips)…

• Purse your lips together and give him small “pecks.”

• Open your lips slightly so that you can gently squeeze the tip of his penis between them.

• With saliva on your lips, gently run them over his penis.

• Use your lips to gently suck on the top of his penis.

The Twister – Using your tongue and lots of saliva, you can perform an ultra-pleasurable and satisfying blow job technique I like to call the Twister. While holding his penis steady in one or both hands, start making a slow circular motion with your tongue around the top of his penis. You can alternate direction and speed to add some variety, but this blissful bj technique alone is enough to bring him to a thundering climax.

Deep Throat – Deep throating your man is a more advanced blow job technique, but when done right, it can deeply gratify and sexually satisfy your man. This extra pleasure is thanks to the back of your throat. As you take him deep into your mouth, eventually, your tonsils and the back of your throat will come into contact with the tip of his penis.

The slight spasming of your throat (thanks to your gag reflex) will make it more enjoyable and stimulating for your man, along with the fact that the rest of your mouth and tongue will be stimulating the shaft of his dick. You can learn more about deep throating your man here in Chapter 7 of the Blow Job Guide.

The Tip Of The Tip – Some guys have sensitive urethral openings. That’s the small slit at the very top of his penis where his cum comes out of. Try gently licking it when giving him a blow job and judge his reaction. If he enjoys it, then he’s one of those guys who enjoys it. If he doesn’t, then just move on to another technique.

Slip Inside – A less advanced fellatio technique that is almost as effective at providing him with intense delight and stimulation as deep throating him is using the inside of your mouth. By taking him into your mouth and pressing/rubbing the tip of his penis against the inside of your cheek and tongue, you have another tool for your blow job arsenal.

Use The Roof – Carrying on from the previous technique, there’s another option for stimulating him: the roof of your mouth. While you might not think it can help you when giving him a blow job, you’d be wrong.

The texture feels great when you angle his penis so that the top of his glans moves against the ridges on the roof of your mouth. If the size of his penis and your mouth don’t allow you to change angles or would mean he gets scraped with teeth, then you should probably avoid this technique.

Fingers & Hands – Using your fingers and hands is not strictly a blow job technique. However, using them is a great way to give your mouth and jaw a break. With plenty of saliva or lube, try gently running your fingers over and back the top of his penis and listen as he uncontrollably groans in pleasure. You can learn more handjob techniques to give your man from the in-depth Hand Job Guide here.

The Up & Down

Almost all guys fantasize about getting a blow job, 87.6% to exact [8], but if you’re not feeling particularly confident the first few times you try it, then my advice is to stick to the easy-to-perform blow job techniques like the Up & Down.

Mastering this first is a smart way to get comfortable giving your boyfriend a blow job before progressing to more advanced techniques and tactics for giving him oral pleasure like sucking him (tips on sucking him off like a pornstar here).

To perform the Up & Down, you simply need to take your man’s penis into your mouth and make a tight “O” shape with your mouth around his penis. This “O” shape means that you can apply pressure around his entire penis.

Next, you are simply going to bob your head up and down, taking his penis in and out of your mouth. Bobbing your head up and down is super simple to start with, especially if you just concentrate on the top inch or two of his penis. As you get comfortable with this, try taking him deeper and deeper with each stroke so that you can stimulate more and more of his penis.

Taking him deeper and deeper into your mouth runs the risk of triggering your gag reflex [9]. Try not to worry about this. It’s entirely natural, and most men don’t really care if you gag a little.

Note: There is a ridge on his penis, where his head joins the shaft. This ridge is particularly sensitive for your man when stimulated. Try focusing on it with your lips when you make the “O” shape.

Focusing on this part of his penis also means that you are only taking the first 1-2 inches of his penis into your mouth, making gagging less likely. If you feel yourself getting close to gagging, it’s okay to pause, breathe, and relax your throat.

2 Tongue Tricks

I want to give you two other blow job techniques that involve your tongue. One is easy to perform, while the other is slightly more tricky but wildly satisfying for your man.

1. Soft Sandpaper – Don’t let the name fool you. This will NOT feel like sandpaper for your man; it will feel fantastic. The reason I call it “Soft Sandpaper” is because you will be using your tastebuds to “polish” your man’s penis in a similar motion that you would use with sandpaper. But the similarities end there.

To start, hold the shaft of your man’s penis firmly in your hand, then make your tongue as wet as possible and stick it out.

Next…

While holding your head and tongue in place, use your hand to move the head of his penis over your tongue. So, the only movement should be from your hand moving his penis over your tongue. Your tongue shouldn’t be moving much at all.

This way, the head of his penis will be running over your tongue.

You can move it in a circular motion, up & down, back and forth, or any movement you like.

In this way, your tongue is “polishing” the head of his penis.

2. Sliding Shaft – For this technique, take his penis as deep into your mouth as you find comfortable and hold it there. 2, 4, or 6 inches deep are all fine. The key is making sure you find it easy and comfortable to hold it there.

Next…

With your tongue at the underside of his penis, you need to slide it forwards along his shaft, as far as you can comfortably go and then slide it backward. Keep sliding it forwards and backward, massaging the same section of his shaft.

While you are doing this, keep his penis in place. Don’t take it deeper or shallower; just keep it in place.

Sliding Shaft is not a breakthrough blow job technique that is going to make your man immediately explode, but it’s a great little trick to use if you want to change your blow job routine and add some new sensations for your man.

BJ Techniques When He’s Uncut

Most of the blow job techniques listed above work best when your man is circumcised or “cut.” While some of the tips transfer without any adjustments if your man is uncircumcised or “uncut,” others need adjustments, and some BJ techniques won’t work at all.

There’s no need to worry, however! There are some special techniques that you can only use on guys that are uncircumcised. The difference is that uncut guys have extra foreskin, also known as the prepuce [10, 11], which partially or completely covers the glans. Uncut guys also have more frenulum along the underside of their glans [12].

Pull it back – The foreskin gets tighter when a man is erect, but the tightness varies, so you’ll need to get used to his foreskin when blowing him. Some foreskin is pretty tight when the guy is hard, so there’s not much wiggle room there.

But not too much – This might seem confusing, but pulling the foreskin all the way back can be quite uncomfortable for some guys. So you don’t need to push it as far back as it can go, just enough to expose at least part of the head. A guy won’t feel much if you’re stimulating him through his foreskin, so you need to pull it back to have direct access to the head of his penis.

Switch it up – Pulling back the foreskin means you can focus on just the tip of his penis using the techniques from above, but this can become overwhelming for a guy who is uncut. According to research, cut guys are less likely to ask their partner to be gentler on their penis [13], they want more stimulation; although, women may not always notice a difference in sensitivity [14]. Remember that the foreskin causes an uncut guy’s glans to be extra sensitive, so you may want to let the foreskin move back into place from time to time.

Use the foreskin – You can actually stroke the foreskin across his glans, which feels great for many uncut guys. You can also use this time to give your mouth a break! It’s also a good way to give him less stimulation and make your blow job last longer.

Swirl your tongue – When you’re ready to take his penis back into your mouth, keep the foreskin down over his penis and insert your tongue between the head of his cock and foreskin. Give it a swirl or three. He’s sure to enjoy it! Roll your tongue around as you push the foreskin back off his glans.

Suck and squeeze, gently – If a guy is uncut, you can orally stimulate his foreskin as well as the glans and shaft. This is a technique for a good blow job that will set you apart from other women who may not be sure how to go down on an uncut cock. Suckle and squeeze your lips around his foreskin. Start gently and SLOWLY increase the intensity.

Remember that each guy has his own preference for how much pressure and foreskin attention he likes, which is why it’s essential for you to talk to him about what he likes. Learn more in our jam-packed guide to sexual communication.

Having sex with an uncut guy can be great. Learn about the differences between cut and uncut penises.

Anal Action

Your man’s ass contains a lot of nerve endings, thousands in fact, and it’s begging for some stimulation. This means that there is no better time to introduce anal play than during your blow job. It can literally triple the pleasure you give him.

Here are a few ways to add anal play to your oral sex.

Rubbing his perineum – I’ve already talked about stimulating your man’s perineum during your blow job. It’s pretty straightforward, you can run your fingers over it, teasing it, or you can press it gently/firmly depending on how much pressure he enjoys. Some prostate toys have an external arm to stimulate his taint easily.

Teasing his asshole – Try gently running your fingers over his asshole or even making small circles over it. This is a great way to gauge his reaction and see if he enjoys it. Just like you, he may adore anal play during oral sex, hate it, or be indifferent to it.

If he enjoys it, then you’ll want to continue. Remember, you can use a bit of lube/saliva to make it slicker.

Fingering him – Taking it to the next level, you can start penetrating him with your finger, pressing it in and out.

Prostate Pleasure – A further step during your blow job, is penetrating him about 2 inches deep with your finger and stimulating his prostate (aka the male G Spot). Keeping your fingertips and palm against his perineum, slide one finger into his ass and curl it back towards his penis when you are 2 inches deep.

You should feel a soft fleshy nub. This is his prostate, and you can stimulate it just like you stimulate your own G Spot by gently pressing it and rubbing it.

You can even use a toy to stimulate his prostate while you focus on his dick with your mouth.

Reading the in-depth Prostate Orgasm Guide will teach you everything you need to know about the pleasuring of your man’s prostate.

Pulling out during orgasm – When you keep your finger inside as he cums, you’ll notice that his ass rhythmically pulsates during his climax. This “clenching” sensation around your fingers with his ass during orgasm can be pleasurable for him, but other guys prefer something else….

When you slowly pull your finger out as he orgasms.

The best way to find out what he prefers: you keeping your finger in his ass during orgasm or slowly pulling it out is to ask him — however, the fun way is to try both and judge for yourself what he likes most.

Lube and nails – Lastly, make sure to use lube when penetrating him anally and also trim/file your nails so that you don’t accidentally cut or hurt him. Lube is also essential for anal penetration since the anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina.

Triple Trick

My most powerful blow job technique is called the Triple Trick technique.

It’s not particularly challenging to perform, but it does require a bit of coordination. Here’s how to do it:

Part 1 – Take the head of your man’s penis into your mouth and start performing the Twister on it (I cover this technique above).

Part 2 – At the same time, take one hand, wrap it around his shaft and start to jerk him off while performing the Twister.

Part 3 – Insert a lubed finger into his ass and start to massage his prostate.

You’ll be performing all three blow job techniques at the same time, which requires a good degree of coordination, as I mentioned before.

And that’s all there is to delivering triple the pleasure to your man

Why Do Women Like Giving Blow Jobs

Here is a summary of our key findings:

1. 92.6% of women like to give blow jobs.

2. However, 76.8% of women admitted that they have given a blow job in the past that they did not enjoy.

3. Feeling pressured or forced into giving a blow job was the most cited reason women gave for not enjoying a blow job with 43.4% of respondents admitting this. Other significant factors correlating with negative blow job experiences for women include: too much pubic hair on their partner, their partner taking too long to orgasm and their partner having hygiene issues

4. “I liked pleasuring my partner” was by far the most popular reason women gave when asked why they liked giving their most recent blow job, with 60.2% of women choosing this response.

5. Women adore giving head when their partner is lying down: 49.5% of women said their favorite blow job position is having their partner lay down on their back in bed.

6. Women HATE the 69 position, with 65.3% of women stating that it was their least favorite position when giving a blow job.

7. When asked “how long do you like a blow job to last for?”, 40.2% of women selected the “as long as my partner wants” option. This was by far the most popular choice rather than a specific time.

8. Women like to swallow: 55.5% of women stated that their favorite way to end a blow job is by swallowing their partner’s semen.

Note: You can find our methodology section at the end of this study.

The Vast Majority Of Women Like To Give Blow Jobs

Do women only give blow jobs because they feel obliged by their partner? Is it something they do out of ‘duty’ instead of enjoying the act itself? We wanted to settle the perennial debate on whether heterosexual and bisexual women actually enjoy giving blow jobs, so we asked them a very simple question:

Do you like giving blow jobs?

The results were stark:

Over Three-Quarters Of Women Have Given A Blow Job That They Did Not Enjoy

A naive person could interpret our initial results (92.6% of women like to give blow jobs) to mean that women enjoy performing oral sex in all situations and circumstances. This kind of misinterpretation of the data could be very dangerous to women.

So we asked all survey participants the following question:

“Have you ever given a blow job that you did not enjoy?”

The results were jaw-dropping

Feeling Pressured Or Forced Is The Main Reason That A Woman Has A Negative Blow Job Experience

We wanted to dig further and understand what are the circumstances that lead to women having a negative blow job experience.

Respondents were able to give multiple answers as often there is more than one factor leading to bad blow job experiences. Their feedback was clear:

Why Do Women Like Giving Blow Jobs? Pleasing Their Partner Is The Main Reason

We’ve covered the multiple reasons why women have not enjoyed giving blow jobs. But what is the main reason why women do enjoy giving a blow job?

We wanted to get specific for this one, so we focused on respondents’ most recent positive blow job experience.

Women’s Favorite Blow Job Position Is Having Their Partner Lie Down On Their Back

We wanted to delve further into what makes a blow job enjoyable for the women giving it. We started with one of the biggest factors: blow job positions.

Women Hate The 69 Position When Giving A Blow Job

Now that we know the blow job positions that women prefer, we wanted to investigate their least favorite positions when giving head.

The Ideal Blow Job Length Is…As Long As The Receiver Wants, Not A Specific Time

Before we ran our blow job survey, we first designed a small open-ended questionnaire to see if we got any interesting responses or data. As part of that initial small survey, many women did not choose a specific time duration when asked how long they like their blow jobs to last.

Instead, they responded with some form of; “However long my partner wants it to last.” So, we decided to include this as an option in our main blow job survey when asking women what the ideal blow job length is.

Women Don’t Like Facials, They Prefer To Swallow

We wanted to finish up the survey focusing on the end of the blow job and discover women’s favorite way to end a fellatio session. It was also a chance to examine whether or not women’s preferences mirror common scenarios seen in pornography?

Conclusion

We discovered that the vast majority of women enjoy giving head and enjoyed performing their most recent blow job (over 90% of women in both cases).

The main reason (60.2%) women enjoy giving blow jobs is because they enjoy pleasuring their partner.

However, over three-quarters of women have had at least one negative experience giving a blow job. This was due to a variety of reasons, some of which included: feeling pressured/forced to having a partner who takes too long to cum to having a partner with bad hygiene.

We also discovered that women’s least favorite blow job position is the 69 while having their partner lie down on their back is their favorite.

The favorite way for women to finish a blow job was by swallowing their man’s semen.

Methodology

Using This Blow Job Guide For Incredible Oral Sex

Using this guide on giving your man the best blow job of his life is pretty straightforward. Every chapter is crammed with wonderful tips and blow job techniques, so my advice is to read it from start to finish. Even if you think you already know how to give a blow job, there’s probably something new to learn!

But before you continue, I have some quick tips to ensure you get the most out of this guide.

Don’t be overwhelmed – You’re about to learn hundreds of powerful blow job techniques to use on your man. Trying to remember every technique when you’re in the moment and figuring out which one to use is near impossible.

To avoid any confusion, just try to remember and use one or two techniques at a time. Once you’ve mastered these techniques, try adding another one or two to your repertoire. This way, you will always be surprising your man with something new or a variation of an old technique.

Of course, it is vital to avoid that dreaded feeling of routine and boredom that will diminish his sexual interest [1].

This is a recipe book – Treat this blow job tutorial like you would treat a recipe book. Don’t feel compelled to use every suggestion, tip, technique, and position.

Instead, be flexible.

• Use the blow job techniques that work for you and your man to provide the most pleasure. And, forget about the blow job tips that don’t work as well. Some men respond better than others to different techniques.

• Feel free to put your own spin on these techniques and alter them to suit you.

Lastly, it’s totally fine if blow jobs aren’t your thing. If you don’t like giving your man oral sex, don’t feel compelled to do it.

Quick Quiz: Do You Give Good Blow Jobs?

If you are new here, then you may want to take the quiz below to learn how good you are at giving oral sex and satisfying your man. You may discover you that you suck (pun intended) or that you are already a blow job queen

Communication & Preferences: Don’t Ignore This

While many in the animal kingdom engage in oral sex…bears [2], bats [3], bonobo monkeys [4], flying foxes [5], wolves [6], ground squirrels [7] and Tibetan macaques [8] to name a few, they can’t communicate their preference as effectively as you and your man can. Effective communication will help you to quickly figure out what techniques your man adores and which ones he finds so-so.

• Some guys love it when you deep throat them, some don’t care for it at all.

• Some guys love the idea of you swallowing their load while others are turned off by it.

• Some guys fantasize about giving you a facial, but others find it pointless.

• Some guys want you to constantly spice up your blow jobs while others actually prefer you using the same few techniques.

• Some guys may adore you fondling their testicles during oral sex, while others will find it distracting.

The point I am trying to make is that your husband is going to adore some of the techniques from this blow job tutorial while he isn’t going to get much from other techniques and ideas. The key is talking to your man and learning his preferences.

This way, you can quickly figure out which techniques give him the most pleasure and work best.

What about you!

To be clear, communication isn’t just about accommodating his desires; it’s about yours too.

According to one study, up to half of all women between 16 and 25 have felt pressured into giving their man a blow job [9]. In another study, 12% of young adult women had repeatedly engaged in oral sex and other sexual practices they disliked because their partner insisted on it [10]. This isn’t right or fair, and it certainly doesn’t make for a great relationship. If you aren’t comfortable with doing something, then it’s important your man understands and respects this.

With this in mind, here are a few quick tips on communicating effectively with your man so that you can give him the best blow job of his life…

Getting feedback

Getting honest feedback on your blow job technique is vital if you want to improve. The best time to get feedback is right after his orgasm. At this time, he’ll be relaxed and very thankful and more likely to be open about his desires with you.

The other times that almost always work great is during foreplay or after he’s had a few drinks.

What if your man is incredibly uptight, and won’t give you helpful, direct feedback?

Here’s what to do:

The next time you go down on him, just beforehand, give him a choice of two options:

“You have a choice: I can deep throat you til you cum, or I can focus only on the tip of your cock. What would you prefer? And you can’t choose both.”

If you are stuck for blow job ideas, you can give him a choice of any of the techniques, tips, and ideas for sucking his cock throughout the rest of this guide.

Choking, gagging, and throwing up

This is what happens when you combine a selfish guy together with a lack of boundaries.

If there is anything you don’t enjoy when giving your man a blow job, he needs to know, and he needs to respect your wishes. So if you don’t enjoy:

• His hands on the back of your head, pulling you in and out.

• Deep throating.

• The taste of his semen.

• Never-ending blow jobs.