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How to Give the Ultimate Blowjob

Worshipping your man’s penis can be one of the most satisfying parts in your sexual routine. For some, kneeling at their partner’s feet and taking his most sensitive area into their mouth is more intimate than sex. It shows his trust in you, desire, plus it puts you in a position to drive him totally wild!

Giving the ultimate blowjob should be fun for both partners, not some chore on your to-do list. Enthusiasm and excitement often make all the difference between a so-so blowjob and an ultimate blowjob, and people who have mastered the art of oral sex understand what else drives a man wild. Follow these tips to treat him to the best blowjob of his life:

Tease Him Before the Blowjob

Dress to impress. Men are visual creatures, so make sure he’s got plenty to look at. Sexy lingerie like a cleavage-baring corset or a sensual striptease are a great prelude before giving him the ultimate blowjob.

Touch and tease. Run your fingertips up and down his body. Pump his shaft a few times while breathing on it. Kiss his belly and inner thighs, or start at his lips and work your way down. But don’t actually start blowing him yet. You want that anticipation to build.

Use your words. Stimulate his other senses with some dirty talk. Tell him how much you are going to enjoy this and what you are going to do to him. Hint: You may even want to start things off with a sexy text or phone call as a prelude, so he knows what’s in store for him later.

Open Wide & Start Blowing

When he can’t handle any more teasing, and is hard and ready, it’s time to dive on in.

Slide your tongue along his shaft. Slowly start licking his shaft up and down with your tongue. After a few good laps take him into your mouth. Take as much as you are comfortable with then start to suck.

Eye contact. There is nothing sexier than watching your lover’s reactions to every move you make. Look him straight in the eye with every suck and stroke.

Enthusiasm. Even if you’re not the most experienced fellatrix, enthusiasm goes a long way. If you are into what you are doing, he’ll be too.

Pay attention. All men are different, so when in doubt about what he likes or doesn’t like…ask. If you hit a certain spot that makes him gasp in delight – do it again.

Take control. If you’re going to go down, act like you mean it. You are the one with the power in this situation. Make him tell you what he wants.

Use your hands. Grasping the base of the shaft and pumping or twisting your wrist around it while orally working the head adds a variety of stimulation and can give your jaws a break - without breaking the mood.

Change your speed. Try a variety of speeds and degrees of suction until you find the one that puts him over the edge. Once you do find that magical pace stick with it and keep that rhythm going.

Humming. They don’t call it a “hummer” for nothing. Humming or moaning while giving your man a blowjob causes the throat to vibrate for added sensations.

Get it wet. Make sure you’ve got plenty of spit worked up; most guys like their blowjobs wet and sloppy. It also provides a good glide for your lips to work him over. Plus, pulling back and seeing sexy saliva dripping from your mouth and his shaft can be a total turn-on.

Add a Little Sizzle to Your Blowjob

Frenulum: A dude’s second favorite “F” word. The frenulum is the “V” shape on the underside of the penis where the shaft meets the head. It’s considered one of the top male erogenous zones, so make sure to give it some extra attention with light licks and twirls of your tongue.

Don’t forget about the twins. The underside of the scrotum is also super sensitive. If you’re licking the shaft, consider going all the way down and giving his balls a treat too. And if you’re REALLY feeling adventurous, travel a little further down into the region we call the “taint.” It’s the often forgotten no man’s land between the sack and the anus. A little lick there and he’s sure to be a happy camper.

Chill out. Put an ice cube in your mouth then slide your way down. The difference in temperature between the coldness of the ice and the hotness of your mouth will drive him wild.

Be spontaneous. Sometimes you might want your lover to know what’s on the sexual agenda, but nothing shows off your passion like surprise head – whether it’s a morning blowjob or a binge-watching something-on-Netflix blowjob.

Throw in some kink. If your guy’s adventurous enough, you could try fingering his backdoor for a little prostate stimulation. It’s an easy way to send him over the edge. Just be careful. Introducing a new element into your blowjob routine when he’s close to finishing might throw him off his game.

Flavored lubes. Turn his tool into a tasty treat with a flavored lubricant. They’re a great way to add some extra excitement and additional slickness. And for those who have a sensitive gag reflex, there are even gels and sprays that help relax the throat allowing you to take him deeper, more comfortably.

Spit or Swallow After the Blowjob?

Most guys would prefer you swallow, but it’s all up to you. If you’re not completely comfortable swallowing, and you can tell he’s about to blow, you can always point your guy in another direction such as your chest or even your feet if he’s so inclined. Your guy will be so happy after getting his ultimate blowjob, he probably won’t even notice where he finishes!

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11 Tips For Eating Her Out

Whether it’s during foreplay to get her wet and ready, or in place of intercourse, cunnilingus should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. She wants to feel pleasure, and you want to be the one to give it to her. That’s why we’ve put together these tips to treat her to incredible oral sex every time.

#1 Find Out What She Likes

She knows what drives her wild better than anyone, so communication is key. You don’t want to waste time fumbling around when you can just ask her what she wants instead. Plus, many women enjoy a little dirty talk beforehand – especially if you start off by telling her you want to go downtown!

#2 Set The Mood

Turn the lights down low and put her favorite music on. Make sure she’s relaxed and comfortable. Start off with a back massage or heavy petting to help get her aroused. Eating her out is much easier when she’s already in the mood.

#3 Tease Her

When you’re ready to start performing cunnilingus, don’t just dive in tongue first. It’s better to tease her and make her squirm in anticipation.

Dr. Jenni Skyler, PhD, LMFT, CST and resident Adam & Eve sexpert, advises to “slowly kiss the whole body, moving in towards the vulva. You can kiss and nibble the outer labia, the inner labia, and tease the clit. Pay close attention to her body language and other signals. You can gauge arousal based on moans and rotating hips. At this point, you can introduce your tongue and let the magic begin.”

You also may want to get as close as possible without actually touching her and blow directly on the clitoris. If you’ve been doing a good job teasing her, she’ll probably grab you by the hair and order you to start licking or else.

#4 Put Your Tongue to Work

When it comes to oral sex, the key is to experiment and look for her cues as to what is working and what isn’t. There are, however, proven techniques that can make her go wild and have her moaning with joy. Here are some of Dr. Jenni’s favorites:

Technique one is the alphabet method where your tongue traces out letters over the clit and the entrance to the vagina. (Don't forget that the introitus, or entrance to the vagina, can be very sensitive. So too is the labia. If the clit gets a little overwhelmed, you can take a break and come here).

Another technique is the “Snake Lick.” Imagine your tongue is like a little snake, licking gently but with enthusiasm and curiosity. As her arousal builds, so should the intensity. But make sure your lover is ready for that intensity.

A third technique involves sucking on the clit. Give your own lips a good lick to make sure they’re nice and wet. Then shape them into a small “O” just slightly larger than their clit. Press your lips around their clit and start gently sucking on it. You can suck on it steadily or create a gentle rhythm where you suck and release pressure. You could even alternate between sucking and blowing on their clit.

Also throw humming into the mix. Try humming your favorite song while your mouth is pressed against her clitoris. The vibrations in your mouth are sure to drive her wild.

#5 Add Some Variety

If licking is all you do, your tongue is going to wear out pretty fast so it’s important to alternate your technique.

Don’t forget your fingers either. Just because you’re going down on her doesn’t mean you can’t tease her nipples at the same time. You could give your tongue a break and finger her some as well. Most women love having someone suck on their clit while getting fingered at the same time.

#6 Respond to Her Reactions

The difference between good oral sex and great oral sex is how you respond to her body. Pay close attention to any feedback you might get. It might be something obvious like talking dirty, moaning, or thrashing around, or something difficult to notice like her toes curling. Once she starts reacting to something you’re doing, keep doing it! If it feels that good and is turning her on you are on your way to giving her that all important orgasm.

#7 Change Sexual Positions

Missionary is always a safe bet when performing cunnilingus. But there are some other positions you can try to spice oral up. She can get on all fours and you can lick her from behind. You can get on your knees and lick her from below. Lay on your back and she can climb on like she is going to ride you cowgirl, but she’ll ride your tongue instead. Or you can pin her shoulders to the floor and lap at her in the piledriver position.

And don’t just stop at different positions, try different places besides the bedroom as well. Kitchen or bathroom counters, the shower, laying her across the back of the couch, standing her against the wall, or even the staircase can add a fun new twist. Plus, spontaneity and a change of venue can be a real turn on in.

#8 Use a Vibrator or Dildo

Not only can vibes and dildos give your tongue a rest, but many women enjoy the added stimulation that sex toys provide. Clitoral vibrators for instance, stimulate her hot spot and some “suck” the clit to mimic the feeling of oral sex. There are even vibes shaped like tongues, and actual tongue vibrators which you place over your own tongue.

Try alternating between a toy and your tongue, or better yet use a smaller vibe or dildo along WITH your tongue. The added sensations are sure to send her over the edge.

#9 Try Flavored Lube

Sweeten oral pleasure and turn your lover into a tasty treat with a flavored lubricant. From strawberry to peach, and chocolate to caramel, these lubes make oral more enjoyable for both partners. They can also be used for penetration. Some even offer added benefits like warming or tingling features to provide added sensitivity and stimulation.

#10 Take Your Time

If you are focusing on the clitoris, Dr. Jenni suggests that “whatever technique you employ, the main thing is to never, ever forget the Three S’s: Slow, Subtle, Soft. The clit is sensitive. If you overwhelm it with speed or pressure, you will have to do a lot of backtracking. It's better to start off gently and build momentum.”

Plus, building momentum heightens her excitement. You may be in a rush to get to the main event, but she’ll appreciate the extra oral attention.

#11 Share Your Enthusiasm

If you are new to giving oral it may take some practice to become proficient. (And your partner should be happy to reap the benefits of that practice.) However, enthusiasm goes a long way as well. If you are into what you are doing, she will be to.

Use All Your Assets

Good oral requires good stimulation – preferably from multiple sources at the same time. While your tongue focuses on your partner’s most sensitive bit (i.e. the tip of his penis or her clit), remember to use your hands too. If your partner’s female, you could finger her, play with her breasts or tease her backdoor… and that’s just for starters. If your partner’s male, then you could play with his balls, stroke his inner thigh, and pump his shaft, and much more!

Do Donuts With Your Tongue

Moving your tongue in a circular motion is a fundamental oral sex move whether you’re giving a blowjob or going down on a lucky lady. Tongue circles are just effective on the tip of his penis as they are on her clit. And they’re so easy to do, they’re almost instinctual!

Listen & Respond to Your Partner

Your partner knows what they like and what feels good, so it’s vital that you pay attention to them. If they like what you’re doing, then keep doing it. If they don’t like whatever you’re doing, then stop doing it. It might sound simple, but it’s advice all too many people ignore.

Vary Speed & Pressure

Variety is the spice of life, and the same applies to oral sex. Changing tempo keeps things new and exciting, especially after you’ve been together a while.

Add Enthusiasm & Energy

The Double Es are important whether you’re giving or receiving oral. No one wants to be with a partner who gets bored. That’s just a recipe for an unhappy relationship and unsatisfying sex. Adding excitement and passion to your oral experience when you’re on the receiving end will show how much you appreciate your partner’s hard work. It might even encourage them to work even harder. And a little enthusiasm and energy on the giving end just makes your partner enjoy it even more.

Factor in Some Butt Play

The taboo thrill of butt play can sometimes be all it takes to make your partner explode. Whether you use a finger or a tongue, a quick little trip down the backdoor is the sexual equivalent to “shock and awe.”

Keep Going After the Big O

Just because your partner climaxed, doesn’t mean you should stop licking. While some people get super-sensitive after hitting the Big O, others get more lazy and relaxed. If your lover’s in the later camp, there’s a good chance they can experience multiple Os if you keep going. And even if they can’t, it could still feel good!

4 Simple Tricks for a Better Blowjob

Most guys will be very quick to tell you that there’s no such thing as a bad blowjob. And they’re generally right – provided you don’t accidentally bite him or something. Those same guys, however, will tell you very quickly that there’s always room for improvement. Here’s four easy things you can do to give a better blowjob.

Quit Using Your Hands

People often combine a blowjob with either shaft-pumping or twisting – creating a Frankenstein-like blowjob and handjob combo. This is just wasted effort as nothing will ever feel as good as your mouth – no matter how sensitive his shaft might be. Take your hands off and see just how deep you can go. You don’t need to get to the point of gagging every 5 seconds, but take your time and see how well you do without those hands. He’ll appreciate it, and so will you. The more you practice, the better you’ll get at going deeper.

Change Your Tempo

A blowjob is a lot like sex. If you keep things at the same speed and even the same position, it’s going to get boring fast. Nothing says that you have to be on your knees for a blowjob. So try lying down with him standing over you or maybe while spooning on the bed in a 69. See? Blowjobs are exactly like sex, in that certain positions suck (in a bad way) while others feel absolutely amazing. Likewise, your guy will find changing speeds just as exhilarating. Start off super fast and then slow down to tease him before picking up the pace again and see how long he lasts. Mix it up a bit and you’ll keep him on edge for a long time to come.

Play With The Boys

You don’t need to go squeezing these things, but fondling that little sack below his penis is going to make him go wild. Just be careful how you treat them. If you’re too gentle, then it will feel like you’re trying to tickle them. But if you’re too hard, you might give them him a case of black and blue balls!

Swallow

Sure it can taste horrible, but swallowing is the perfect way to end a blowjob – especially if you don’t usually do it. It’s like finding the perfect purse with matching shoes and then discovering they’re all on sale for half off. The best way to swallow while minimizing the taste is to take him as deep as you can when he’s ready to blow. If you’re lucky, it will shoot right down the hatch and you won’t even taste it. But this is an all or nothing method. If you change your mind at the last minute, you’ll end up with an eyeful. And that’s much, much worse than a mouthful.

How to Go Down on a Woman

The act of cunnilingus, or going down on a woman, is extremely intimate. Some women say it’s even more intimate than actual lovemaking. After all, she’s giving you access to the most private parts of her body. And since some women can’t orgasm with penetrative sex alone, cunnilingus becomes even more important in terms of sexual satisfaction.

That’s because the vulva contains the epicenter of female pleasure, the clitoris. The clit has over 8,000 nerve endings that when properly stimulated can trigger incredible orgasms.

But since every woman responds differently oral isn’t a one-lick-fits-all situation. So how do you know if you’re going about it the right way?